Tonight we had a wonderful speaker, Lorilee Cracker. She talked to us about Maternal Gatekeeping, which means when we need help, we don't allow our husbands to help us because we don't like the way they do it and we constantly correct or nag.
She compared our controlling ways of wanting things done just so to the Soup Nazi on Seinfeld. But when we are so controlling, we don't allow our husbands to be who they are and be a true partner in our marriage.
She gave us 3 ways to open the Maternal Gate and let our husbands be a true partner:
1) Quit hogging and hovering: We have a system of how we do things and just because we have found a way that works best for us, that does not mean we need to hover over our husbands and take things away from them because we think we can do it better.
2) Watch how we ask for help: Not making a honey do list or be condesending but ask for help using encouraging words. For example, "I would consider it the best thing in the world if you would..."
3) Your husband has something for your kids that you don't: Let Dad be Dad
She encouraged us to let go of the little things like wiping the counter or picking up the toys to see the big picture of allowing valuable time your husband is spending with you or your children.
Thank you so much, Lorilee!
Next week, we look forward to hearing Don Perini talk to us about "How to Develop a Creative Life"
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